Recently, I had a long conversation with my bff. It was a typical conversation about what's going on in our lives. You know, good, old fashioned girl talk. Somehow, we got on the topic about my man pattern... Man pattern - "adj: describes the habitual characteristics of the men in your life"
My bff thinks my ideal man looks like this...
Lives here
and drives this
However, my man pattern suggests a guy that looks more like this
give or take a few pounds... give or take a few years... but you get the point (I hope)
lives here with his mom or grandma or aunt or whomever
or
or here if he lives out maryland
He drives
or
I explained to her that the first type of dude just isn't for me... Our personalities just don't mesh well... I'm too normal for him and he's too extra for me. First of all I love gogo... And these types of dudes HATE gogo... They like places like Bar 7. These are the types of dudes who forget they used to win beat your feet contest at the Hot Shoppes. They approach you like you're supposed to give him your number. Nah, I'm good
The dudes who fit my current male pattern just make a better match... One reason is prolly cuz I live around the corner, or down the street lol. Meaning we're not too much different from each other. We can relate... I don't judge them & they don't judge me. Their approach SEEMS more sincere... even though their goals are the same
Now it's really nothing wrong with either types of men... After all we can't help who we like, right??? Well my bff seems to think otherwise and I respect her opinion. I'll try to keep an open mind (I guess) At the end of the day she just wants what's best for me. And who knows, she may be right. But for now... I'm chillin... turn the lights on
Lls yes u do like them ones that live with their mother or some other relative just try something different he may fool u.
ReplyDeleteAwwwwwww man... You know I was cracking up writing this... I had some other stuff in there but I didn't wanna offend anyone lol
DeleteOld habits are so hard to break... But if I can stop biting my nails I guess I can open up to new experiences lol
Change can be very good!! :-)
DeleteYou gonna come outta of that comfort zone alittle .. When you have dreams of trying new things you can't be with somebody who got small minded ways .. And lets be real, grown dudes still living around the way ain't really trying to experience nothing new. You gotta look for the combo of both .. The dude you can relate to but is not necessarily still in that scene .. The dude that has evolved .. Not necessarily the Bar 7 joint .. Maybe he doesn't go out anymore or he's a special occassion gogo joint .. But you gotta open to give them a chance .. Just cus they don'to look the part or show you that off the break
ReplyDeleteGood advice Moods.... If I start dating forreal forreal Imma try to keep an open mind... #staytuned
DeleteI sooo agree with the person who stated - a combination of both!! These joint around the corner will still b there in the same situation 10 yrs. from now. I would LOVE to meet/connect with someone with a mixture of both. What can I say, I love gogo too (lol) & def. can't be with someone who is gonna frown upon my stress reliever (lol)...But def. would like to meet someone who is outgoing esp when it comes to his career!!!
DeleteLol I wonder if I should revisit this
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